I’m so glad you had that experience. We do all need it, and we don’t have many spaces where we can say it. This inhumane society of our has done a good job at telling us that if we, as healthy adults, experience a need for platonic touch, mothering, true care there’s something wrong with us. Thank you for calling bullshit and for the important reminder that we need authentic community and authentic relationships, and some times we deeply need mothering.
Thank you, Micah. I'm really glad too, I needed it. It makes me sick how this society has made certain aspects of our humanity feel unacceptable. I always considered myself a "needy" kid. It was only as an adult that I realized how emotionally deprived I was. I'm finally learning to be ok with my need to be mothered at times as an adult. May we all have more authentic community and relationships in our lives. We need each other.
I think this society is gravely deprived of good mothering, and it's a nurturing we all need to thrive. Good for you recognizing that need and sharing. It's unfortunate how many of us aren't taught how to mother ourselves in a healthy way, and moreover, how many us were failed by our own mothers and guardians to receive this loving concept in the first place. It's one the reasons I think we have a "Sibling Society" of misguided, immature adults with waning empathy. I hope conversations like this and more can help lead to more support for those who need it and for us to recognize a healthy Village has many mothers, fathers, aunties, and uncles to lead each other in kindness, love, and proper guidance. Asé! 🙏🏾
Dr. Ray, we are such a deprived society. I wish we were taught to build true community and healthy ways to nurture ourselves and each other. At nearly 50, I feel as though I'm just starting to learn. "A Sibling Society of misguided, immature adults with waning empathy" is such an accurate reflection. May this new world we're building value the importance of the Village and everyone in it. 🙏🏽
I love that picture. I don't support AI "art" either but this made me smile.
Let me add my two cents:
Do you know when cancer patients are officially said to have recovered?
When they die in something else.
A very few types of cancer can be pretty well removed (like stage 0 melanoma), but for everything else, the possibility of it coming back, some cells escaping somewhere in the body always will exist. This, and all sorts of things that come with having cancer is something our loved ones will never understand. It's a wall with a door which is one-way only.
I'm glad that made you smile. 💜 And no, I didn't know that. This is why I think these conversations are so needed. While we may never understand, it can create space for us to empathize more deeply. This really spoke to me, thank you for sharing Beáta.
I only know about it because of a friend of a friend who posted on Facebook - he had colon cancer before. While I can only find the complete understanding in my skin cancer self-help group, I very much appreciate when people outside of this circle try to understand more and support. Thank you so much for understanding and for all the work you do, Robin <3
A newer friend, younger by a decade, reached out to me recently with a vulnerable ask and ended with, “you in, Auntie?” showing me not only that she sees me in this integral role to my identity, but also who she needs me to be in this relationship as we embark on this project. I’m excited to build community this way, and would love to talk more about it over dinner. 🫶🏼
“You in, Auntie?” I genuinely felt the love in that question. I want more of that in our society, that was really beautiful. Thank you for sharing and accepting the invitation. 💗
I’m so glad you had that experience. We do all need it, and we don’t have many spaces where we can say it. This inhumane society of our has done a good job at telling us that if we, as healthy adults, experience a need for platonic touch, mothering, true care there’s something wrong with us. Thank you for calling bullshit and for the important reminder that we need authentic community and authentic relationships, and some times we deeply need mothering.
Thank you, Micah. I'm really glad too, I needed it. It makes me sick how this society has made certain aspects of our humanity feel unacceptable. I always considered myself a "needy" kid. It was only as an adult that I realized how emotionally deprived I was. I'm finally learning to be ok with my need to be mothered at times as an adult. May we all have more authentic community and relationships in our lives. We need each other.
I think this society is gravely deprived of good mothering, and it's a nurturing we all need to thrive. Good for you recognizing that need and sharing. It's unfortunate how many of us aren't taught how to mother ourselves in a healthy way, and moreover, how many us were failed by our own mothers and guardians to receive this loving concept in the first place. It's one the reasons I think we have a "Sibling Society" of misguided, immature adults with waning empathy. I hope conversations like this and more can help lead to more support for those who need it and for us to recognize a healthy Village has many mothers, fathers, aunties, and uncles to lead each other in kindness, love, and proper guidance. Asé! 🙏🏾
Dr. Ray, we are such a deprived society. I wish we were taught to build true community and healthy ways to nurture ourselves and each other. At nearly 50, I feel as though I'm just starting to learn. "A Sibling Society of misguided, immature adults with waning empathy" is such an accurate reflection. May this new world we're building value the importance of the Village and everyone in it. 🙏🏽
I love that picture. I don't support AI "art" either but this made me smile.
Let me add my two cents:
Do you know when cancer patients are officially said to have recovered?
When they die in something else.
A very few types of cancer can be pretty well removed (like stage 0 melanoma), but for everything else, the possibility of it coming back, some cells escaping somewhere in the body always will exist. This, and all sorts of things that come with having cancer is something our loved ones will never understand. It's a wall with a door which is one-way only.
I'm glad that made you smile. 💜 And no, I didn't know that. This is why I think these conversations are so needed. While we may never understand, it can create space for us to empathize more deeply. This really spoke to me, thank you for sharing Beáta.
I only know about it because of a friend of a friend who posted on Facebook - he had colon cancer before. While I can only find the complete understanding in my skin cancer self-help group, I very much appreciate when people outside of this circle try to understand more and support. Thank you so much for understanding and for all the work you do, Robin <3
I've heard of death cafes where people get together to talk about death
I've never heard of that, I'm so curious to learn more. Thank you for sharing, Amanda.
A newer friend, younger by a decade, reached out to me recently with a vulnerable ask and ended with, “you in, Auntie?” showing me not only that she sees me in this integral role to my identity, but also who she needs me to be in this relationship as we embark on this project. I’m excited to build community this way, and would love to talk more about it over dinner. 🫶🏼
“You in, Auntie?” I genuinely felt the love in that question. I want more of that in our society, that was really beautiful. Thank you for sharing and accepting the invitation. 💗